MDPC/3EH #10 [TurnAround Thursday] Observe Yourself?!

Hey there Difference Maker!

Today’s TurnAround is … Observe Yourself!

I wanted to share with you a turn around that can energetically diffuse energetic triggers in emotionally lit children (and adults) and help you foster a more positive, productive and welcoming environment.

Today’s 30 Second TurnAround is all about how quickly you can turn a situation around the instant you …

Observe Yourself 

I came up with this TurnAround in my 3rd year of teaching when I started a new job at my dream school.  It just so happened that my classroom had a wall of windows on two sides of the room.  One open to the outdoors and the other one open to the school hallway.  I loved that room because it was so light and bright.

One day when I heard myself launch into default adulting – going off on a kid like my parents had done with me – suddenly out of the corner of my eye I saw someone in hallway looking into my classroom.

In that moment, I saw myself through their eyes.  And let me tell you, I did not like what I saw myself doing.

Ruh-Roh

In an instant – a literal instant – I course-corrected and took the conversation with that student in an entirely new, and much better, direction.

It’s not that we don’t know how to be compassionately curious when someone does something irritating, disrespectful, hurtful, harmful or exactly the opposite of what we’ve asked them to do, because we all know how. 

It’s that sometimes we’ve allowed ourselves to get to our last nerve and it’s at those moments our default adulting setting takes over and we sound like a broken record from the past!  

FOR THE FUN OF IT:  The next time someone gets on your last nerve mentally observe yourself.  What is is like being with you right now?  I challenge you to apply the power of self-observation and witness the remarkable direction changing impact it can have on diffusing the entire situation.

And whatever you do, don’t let yourself JREDD!  Justify, Rationalize, Explain, Defend or Debate your way out of how you were just default adulting.

In other words, stop blaming, deflecting, projecting and start claiming.  Own it.  If you were being less than great, who do you want to be instead?

Thank you for the difference I know you make every day!

Reaching out …

PS … Hey if you haven’t registered for my training, you need to!

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