MDPC/3EH #31 [TurnAround Thursday] B-Mod Yourself!

Hey there Difference Maker!

Today’s TurnAround – B-Mod Yourself –  revolves around a discovery I made when taking a Behavioral Modification class in my master’s program.  It is then that I discovered a fundamental principle of Behavior Modification that seems to get missed:

Before you can change anyone else, you must first change yourself.

So, you create a chart for a kid to either praise or punish behavior.

You are the one making the chart.  You are the one planning this out where you hadn’t before.

Who changed?   You did.

While you were making this chart, you started to hold a different expectation – i.e., attitude – toward the child believing this would be the way to get them under control.

Who changed first?  You did.

This is a concept that holds great significance, as our attitudinal vibes and tones play a pivotal role in shaping the outcomes of our interactions with others.

In fact, you’ll find that attitudinal vibes and tones cannot be concealed; it is a force that either contaminates or contributes to the outcomes we seek.  

You can’t have an attitude and keep it a secret!
… and please quote me on this.

What!?  We’re starting with you and not them?  Correct.   

2 Things can be true at the same time:

1- You are right: you are not responsible for the mental and emotional shape they are in when they come to school.  

2- You have the energetic power to BE a safe haven for them to shift emotional gears the second they walk through your classroom door based on your attitudes, vibes and tone.

Our tone of voice, the language we use and the expectations we set all manifest our underlying attitude towards them.

By checking in with yourself first – your true feelings about a kid – what’s really going on for you about “certain” students – we can then and only then energetically influence behaviors in ways we never thought possible.

To witness an immediate improvement in behaviors, the key lies in changing your attitude first.

Shedding fear, judgments, entitlement, prejudices and condescending life-limiting labels is the catalyst for the shift in energy between you and the child. By doing so, you open up a pathway for healing unproductive behaviors and witnessing remarkable results beyond your expectations.

This is B-Mod-ing Yourself!

If you are eager to delve deeper into the realm of positively influencing an energetically triggered, emotionally lit child’s behavior, I invite you to join me for an exclusive FREE webinar “3 Energy Hacks that TurnAround Behavior in 30 Seconds or Less!”

In this webinar, we will explore my Top 3 Energetic Hacks – unconventional yet common sense strategies – that enable you to directly impact a child’s behavior within moments, taking your interactions to a whole new level.

FOR THE FUN OF IT:  Grab a cup of joe, a notepad and find a quiet place to get in touch with what you really feel and think.  It’s OK to get really honest with yourself.  No one is listening in.  The “positive” police are not going to put you in jail for not liking certain students.

HOWEVER, if you are going to open the door to a better experience for yourself and for them, this is how you find out.  Write down as many answers that come from this question:  “If I were to change something about myself regarding my dealings with this kid, what would it be?”

It has been my experience, in working with people over the years, that when they find their own answers, they also know exactly what they can do next, to remedy the situation.

Reaching out …

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