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What are emotional upsets actually costing you?
Posted on July 15, 2014 by Mary Reynolds

Dear Difference Maker,

Question of the day:  What’s it costing you to not do something different and productive with the people in your life that are difficult for you to communicate effectively to?

There has been some research that has come out from the Institute of HeartMath about just how long it takes the physiology of the body to recover after an emotional upset.

They observed that it takes between 1-5 hours after an emotional upset for the body to restore its Homeostasis of the heart and nervous systems; and that depends of course, on whether or not we continue to remain upset – playing things over and over and over again in our minds.

Avoidance, abandoning or “in your face” confrontation methods for dealing with emotional upsets are not ever going to …http://maryreynolds.com/?p=1025

Reaching out …

PS … The time is NOW to GEAR UP for your FALL professional development training and I’d love to come to your organization to train your group on the Synergistic Power of Connection ( MakeADifference.com/Speak ) ….AND I’ve also created a program where you can DIY – it! ConnectingWithColors.com/UTrain

Heart Productions & Publishing, Greater Boston Area

R U Doing that Thing that you DO that you Always DO?
Posted on July 09, 2014 by Mary Reynolds

Dear Difference Maker,

Back when I first started speaking, one of the frequent scenarios at the airport between my husband and me was the power struggle that began the second I’d step off the airplane!

I’d come in after a long, intense week on the road speaking for National Seminars Group — five cities a week, getting up at 6:00 a.m. to be on the floor setting up by 7:00 a.m. presenting an all-day seminar, breaking down tables and books, packing up, then driving or flying to the next city. I’d get in at midnight, get up the next morning at 6:00 a.m. and do it all over again.

When I came in off the road I had only one thought: “Get me home!”

I’d come off of that plane like a horse heading to the barn at night, with “get out of my way” stamped on my forehead.

This powerful urge clashed with my husband’s predominant personality style.

Let me just say that a Green (me) and a Red (my husband) don’t connect to a world’s view in a similar way!

Mr. Red would try to out-powerwalk me on the way to the parking garage. Being a Red and wanting to win, he’d play me like a game of chess, waiting ’til we got to the garage, then lowering the boom for the win—he knew where the car was parked, but I didn’t!

Now that never really stops a Green, because we’re certain we can do anything with the right system. So with my mind thinking very fast, I would… http://maryreynolds.com/?p=868

Reaching out …

PS … The time is NOW to GEAR UP for your FALL professional development training and I’d love to come to your organization to train your group on the Synergistic Power of Connection ( MakeADifference.com/Speak ) … AND I’ve also created a program where you can DIY – it with my: ConnectingWithColors.com/UTrain

Heart Productions & Publishing, Greater Boston Area

Have you ever been told that you are two-faced?
Posted on July 11, 2014 by Mary Reynolds

Dear Difference Maker,

There is nothing more important in life than the quality of our relationships.

Have you ever been told – or do you ever feel like – you are two-faced?

Do you ever feel that when things are calm and easy going you are definitely responding to life one way, but when things become intense there’s another “you” that jumps in and takes over in a completely different way?

Well I think you will find what I have to share with you next is quite interesting… http://maryreynolds.com/?p=921

Reaching out …

PS … The time is NOW to GEAR UP for your FALL professional development training and I’d love to come to your organization to train your group on the Synergistic Power of Connection ( MakeADifference.com/Speak ) ….AND I’ve also created a program where you can DIY – it! ConnectingWithColors.com/UTrain

Heart Productions & Publishing, Greater Boston Area

Here is your 10% Solution to all of your relationship disconnects!
Posted on July 10, 2014 by Mary Reynolds

Dear Difference Maker,

How much of an iceberg do you actually see above the water?

The answer: about 10%

You may have heard that 90% of an iceberg lies below the water and when it comes to difficult relationships, this is where most people stop short of continuing to learn about personality styles because people feel that this is just way too much to have to figure out… so why bother?!

I’m excited to show you WHAT’s NEW about personality styles TODAY …

The FIRST BEING that you absolutely do not need to know what’s going on with the 90% below the surface with anybody, anywhere, at anytime.

THE SECOND BEING

You only need to be able to interpret about 10% – of what you are seeing right in front of you – to be effective in being seen, heard and in coming across with a high level of credibility when it comes to quickly being able to apply my Connecting with Color Personality Styles system and strategies in your life.

Meaning that you don’t need to have a counseling background or know about anybody’s childhood, you don’t need to know what happened to anybody last year, or 20 years ago… it does not matter what baggage any one carries!

ALL THAT MATTERS is that you FOCUS on the 10% that’s going on right here right now and you learn to DIAL IN whatever personality color style they are speaking in – right in this moment!

So the 10% that you DO NEED TO KNOW is this… http://maryreynolds.com/?p=891

Reaching out …

PS … The time is NOW to GEAR UP for your FALL professional development training and I’d love to come to your organization to train your group on the Synergistic Power of Connection ( MakeADifference.com/Speak ) ….AND I’ve also created a program where you can DIY – it! ConnectingWithColors.com/UTrain

Heart Productions & Publishing, Greater Boston Area

A Cruel Experiment! Don’t let this be you …
Posted on July 8, 2014 by Mary Reynolds

Dear Difference Maker,

Today, I am going to tell you something that I HOPE will make a difference in your life and the lives of those you care about …

…in just 4 short years my life, I went from being a highly successful professional to feeling like someone was running their fingernails down the blackboard of my soul.

In 1984, I lost my first child at birth, a year later I had a high-risk pregnancy, the next year after our son was born I divorced my husband, the year after that I moved to a new state, and when all of my job prospects and interviews fell through, I found myself a single mother of a two year old who was  emotionally and physically burned out and literally living on pennies alone in a huge, new city where I knew no one.

With the precious exception of my wonderful son, I had somehow managed to get everything in life I did not want!

My life was similar to that of the cruel frog experiment …

The Cruel Frog Experiment
Several experiments involving the recording the reaction of frogs to slowly heated water took place in the 19th century, which even though cruel, illustrates what can happen when we live an unexamined life:

Phase 1 of the experiment: The scientists dropped a frog into scalding water. The frog jumped out immediately, and saved its own life by doing so. You and I would do the same. If we find ourselves in extreme pain or imminent danger, we will flee immediately.

Phase 2 of the experiment: was to put the frog in a pan with tepid water and place the pan on a burner. The fire under the pan was turned up ever so slowly, until maryreynolds.com/?p=847

Reaching out …

PS … To find out how you, your colleagues and loved ones are WIRED to CONNECT go to:  ConnectingWithColors.com/PSP

Heart Productions & Publishing, Greater Boston Area